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well doctors had to cancel last week cause we was snowed in so trying to see if can get in tomorrow, was hopong would go better while off work the siatika has eased but still bad cause not doing as much while off but my wrists are getting worse i can not grip, i cant even open a jar food ar anything and it hurts i am not waking up with pins needles any more i just wake up in pain,its like they go stiff hopefully get some where tomorrow. Daniel is getting sick every day after methtrexate lately and takes it at night to ease it but nothing yet. Had a very bad time with matthew on boxing day some of you know about his temper and he has been so good for so long and on boxing day he was joiking and said to her 63 is old and instead of joking she hit him and i waws not there so he came crying to me and i know how to deal with him when he gets angry so i took him a side but my other halfs sister interupted a like and came to him saying you should not be like that with your grandmother u know right and i said jamie leave him alone and she would not so to me she was interupting there making matters worse we know to take him corner let him chill out then she starts telling me what i should do with my child so i said right i am not taking this after what me and my children have been through no way am i having some one tell me what to do with my family i ttake any advice any one has but not in the tone she ment it and his mum said right he has done with me and my other half said i will take over with mat tina you go out side so i went to chile off and his mum came and our mat came back at same time our matt cuddled me crying he sorry when he did nto cause it and his mum hugged me and andy was looking so i thought i am not causing anymore trouble but i swear inless she appologies she is the one who is done with me , me and my children have been through a lot and we have done it alone, we have never replyed on anyone and some times i find it hard but they the kind of people what throw it back in your face so i know my family is on this forum and i know who i can rely on. Thank you to eveyone on here and i love you all. xxxxxxxx
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Oh Tina, so sorry you had all this trouble on boxing day. You are right though, you and your husband are the ones who know how to deal with Mat, and anyway I would never dream of telling my sister's children off. I may have wanted to in the past but you don't do you ? I wouldn't have liked them telling my child off either. Your mum-in-law certainly shouldn't have hit Mat. Sorry to hear how bad your hands are too and I hope you can get a diagnosis and treatment soon. Have you thought about Dan having the mtx by injection? This usually stops the sickness. Good luck with getting an appointment tomorrow.
Love, Doreen xx
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Oh Tina, I do hope you can see your GP soon - you have been waiting so long for some answers, and getting absolutely nowhere. Please God someone can help you soon, as long-running pain like yours is so very debilitating. I hope the MTX sickness eases soon for Dan - the doctor can give him something to help with sickness if it`s really bad, it might be worth asking. I`m sorry things were not so good on Boxing Day - Christmas can leave families fraught sometimes, and things are sometimes said in the heat of the moment which would be better left unsaid. I remember some time ago now, my daughter-in-law getting quite upset at some "advice" her nan gave her about child-rearing, which left things rather strained for a while, but it was sorted fairly quickly when tempers had cooled. You are a strong person Tina, who always puts her children first - they are very, very lucky to have you as their mum, and never let anyone tell you otherwise. Everyone here knows you would run through a brick wall for them. You know you can always count on us here. Take care, Kathleen x
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Hi Tina We are right behind you she was wrong to interfere. nobody knows your lad better than you. hope you get help and get your pain sorted very soon. sue v xx
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Oh Tina, my lovely. I am truly so sorry this happened with your M-I-L and Matt- and it is absolutely no one else's right to discipline your children. You are quite right to feel aggrieved and upset about this and I hope you receive an apology. Like you rightly say, you have been through so much this year and this is not what you need. I would never ever dream of telling someone else's child off...I am more than happy to tell my own off! But never someone else's, no matter what I feel.
Your hands and pain have become so severe now , probably because of the amount of time you have been neglescted for. Proper and thorough tests need to have been carried out and haven't. Appropriate care has not been offered snd therefore you are becoming more ill. I am horrified to read how much pain you're suffering now, and feel this is unjust. I think you must demand to see a rheumatologist or a specialist physician?
I am so sorry about Dan too..what a shame after it not causing any sickness for a good while. Poor love.
Always here for you.
Love and prayers, A
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Hi ya tina so sorry stil no news for you u need sorted and treatemnt that helps,ah poor little dan being sick mtx hugs to him. and as for mum in law well ive got 1 just like that can remember her hitting my hubby over head when newly married. he your boy hun for you and hubby to love care for,discpline whatever needed. I also wouldnt do that migh feel like it but one bites ones tougue and let parents deal with issues. sorry you ahd such toughy boxing day. pm you hun take care lv melly cuddly cats make my world seem so much more fun
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Dear Tina,
I hope to goodness that this GP listens to what you are telling him and arranges a blood test and an appointment to see a specialist ASAP.
The boxing day episode must have upset you so much as it would have done anyone of us. How dare anyone lift a hand to your child! But you know what, as long as she and everyone else now understands that you will not tolerate such abuse and/or interference, is it worth holding the anger against her and waiting for an apology? I have found that there are times to be dignified and rise above such people/incidents. You know she knows, and everyone else knows that she hit a child, not just any child but her own grandson! That is humiliation enough for anyone!
Thinking of you and want to hear that you are being listened to by this GP.
Love Eleanor x
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thanks for your support everyone i am not one of them people what say never hit children but i know whith my child hitting is not the answer as it winds him up more and he needs to be relaxed down but i would never smack another member family and the fact was he was joking about her age right just off to ring doc bye
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just rung got an appointment tomorrow with head doctor 2.40, she asked would i like to see doctor i normally see i said noooooooooooooo lol
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Hi lovely Tina
I am so sad that you are still in so much pain. Thank goodness you have a GP appointment tomorrow. Please, please write everything down and refuse to budge until you have answers to ALL your questions. It shouldn't be like this for you as you have so much else going on in your life.
As for the incident on Boxing Day - well, if anyone hit my child, I would be furious. I DO reprimand George when he gets out of control - but would never smack either of the little ones.
When are you back in work, Tina? Maybe we could get together sometime? We can get to Wigan fairly easily.
Lots of love Jeanxxxxxx
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Hi Tina I really hope you get all the answers you need at the GP as for the boxing day episode boy I am glad she was not my m-i-l I have never smacked Sophie as I know how to handle her as you do with your children I think adults hitting a child is wrong we are bigger then them how would your m-i-l have reacted if you hit her and your s-i-l it was none of her business you should of told her to back off I really get wound up when I see people hitting children as I said we are bigger than them and to hit them must hurt a lot try not to get too up-set good luck at the doctors take care Mary L
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Hi Tina all best to you for apointment with head gp,thats good exactly way to go when not getting answers.im not a mum but i do know my bro ddint respond to being smacked either would just get him angry and rightly soit is abuse as mary said we alot bigger must really hurt. hugs to you lv melly cuddly cats make my world seem so much more fun
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Thanks guys i agree totally,i only need to use my voice. I go back 4th january jean cant belive how soon it is coming lol will let you know how get on tomorrow, keep fingers crossed for me but my other half has said if he dose nothing tomorrow then going private cause not on this, and it is going to make my job harder and harder as i go on.
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Big prayers for tomorrow Tina...please let us know as soon as.....
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Praying u should be just finhsing up at gp now. hugs melly cuddly cats make my world seem so much more fun
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well i am back, he says he cant really help need to be refered to orthopicis ( bad spelling ) so i said how long he said well could be months i said i have had it a year now if they had refered me all that time again i would not be as bad. He said it still could be carpol syndrume even though that test come back ok so whats the point of doing the bloody test i ask you.
so told him i can not wait months as got to point cant even grip anything so asked him to refer me to private so he gave me number and i have just rung it and asked for the docotr he said dr trail and no such person so they transered me and i got transfered about 3 times and no one is any the wiser so i have just rung up the doctors to ask for the name again cause that one wrong and guess what they shut only left 10 mins ago so still have to wait till tomorrow and to top it off i came down with something half hour ago and cant stop throwing up feel awfull, got kids to cook for how awfull when being sick, anyway off again as i type this
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Hi Tina - this is absolutely appalling. I think you should go ahead and get the name for the private doc but think you need to complain about this treatment to practice manager. This is a complete and utter let down for you when they must realise how desperate you are to ask to be referred as private patient. I hope the stomach bug doesn't last too long. Thinking of you and wishing there was something we could do to help.
Julie
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Oh tina hun how horrid call that care defintley complain to pratice manger when u feeling better u take care hope bug dont last to long. was so praying better outcome than that for you. lv melly cuddly cats make my world seem so much more fun
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Oh Tina, that's not good at all! I hope you can get the name of the doc tomorrow and get an appointment made. Hope your bug doesn't last long.
Love and hugs, Doreen xx
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Oh Tina, what about the other symptoms you have? Glad that you are going to see someone private. Best of luck.
Eleanor x
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